Why Perfect Speakers Are Actually Boring (And What Audiences Really Want)
Can I let you in on a little secret? The most memorable speakers I know aren’t the ones who never put a foot wrong.
They’re the ones who trip over their words, laugh at themselves, and somehow make you feel like you’re having a cuppa with your best mate.
The Pratfall Effect (Or Why Being Human Wins)
There’s actually science behind this, it’s called the Pratfall Effect. People are more likeable when they show a bit of vulnerability, as long as they’re competent.
Translation: Your stumbles might be the exact moment someone decides they really like you.
My Favourite Compliment Ever
Early in my TV career, a seasoned director told me I was his favourite presenter. Not because I was slick, but because I was human. I brought the audience in, especially when things went pear-shaped.
That stuck with me. A pat on the back for being me, wonky bits and all.
Connection Over Perfection (Every Single Time)
Here’s what audiences actually want:
- Someone real they can relate to
- Stories that make them feel something
- Permission to be human too
- To feel seen and understood
What they don’t want:
- A corporate robot reading bullet points
- Someone desperately trying to impress them
- Perfection that feels untouchable
So, Give Yourself Permission to Be Brilliant AND Human
Next time you’re speaking (whether that’s in a meeting or on a stage):
Stop trying to be perfect. Start trying to be present.
Let your personality shine through. Share the real stuff. Laugh at yourself when you mess up. Trust that being authentically you is not just enough - it’s exactly what they need.
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